Can My Prayers Move a Sovereign God?

Can My Prayers Move a Sovereign God-

Several years ago, I went through a period where my prayers seemed to bounce off the ceiling unheard and unanswered.  It got to the point where I was afraid to pray for anyone because I was sure bad things would happen to the people I cared about if I asked God to help them.

I have since emerged from that dark night with a stronger faith and an unshakable certainty that God never leaves us and always hears us, even when our skewed perceptions lead us to think otherwise. 

A new day has dawned on my journey of faith, but I still wrestle with the perplexities of being a Jesus follower—the conundrums I don’t understand, the complexities I simply can not wrap my mind around. 

Two Views of Prayer

My role in prayer is one of these recurrent themes I spend a lot of time trying to figure out.  I live in the tension between two ideas of prayer that are both true to some extent, yet must be kept in balance.  I have an intellectual and spiritual tug-of-war within me that wonders,

How do my prayers and God’s sovereignty interact?

Ask and You Shall Receive

On one end is a philosophy of prayer that says if I have enough faith and not too much sin, God will do whatever I ask.

Jesus said, “And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.” (Matt 21:22)  He told us our faith in him will heal us (Mk 5:34, Mk 10:52,Lk 17:19) and that the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective (James 5:16).

These verses inspire me to dream and ask and believe and receive. 

The trouble is, my experience of God often is a lot messier than it looks on paper.  There are times when I pray what I believe to his will with faith and in his name and nothing happens.  At least nothing that I am able to perceive anyway.  The situation gets worse instead of better as I struggle to find God’s hand at work in my world.

Emphasizing my faith as the mechanism that moves the hand of God can produce within me arrogance and presumption and profound disappointment when my friend with cancer dies, the marriage I’ve been praying for self-destructs, and my own baby is stillborn while my husband whispers prayers over my swollen tummy.

My confidence in the power of prayer and my own ability to execute it properly withers.  I’m left wondering what I did wrong and where God went.

[tweetthis]My experience of God often is a lot messier than it looks on paper.[/tweetthis]

He Does Whatever He Pleases

On the other end, I come to a place that primarily emphasizes God’s sovereignty. My prayers feel useless because “God’s gonna do what God’s gonna do.”  It seems the only right prayer that has an assurance of being realized is “Thy will be done.” 

With this fatalistic viewpoint, I wonder why I should even pray all.  I become apathetic. I feel helplessly at the mercy of a powerful God who seems too distant to hear my cries.

The Lord does whatever pleases him, in the heavens and on the earth, in the seas and all their depths.
Psalm 135:6

Two Places I Don’t Want to Camp Anymore

I have camped out on both extremes and found that neither accurately reflect the truth of how God wants to interact with me. He wants me to come to him with my concerns, but he has made it clear he is no genie in a bottle.

[tweetthis]God wants me to come to him with my concerns, but he has made it clear he is no genie in a bottle.[/tweetthis]

My inability to wrap my mind around the balance of God’s sovereignty and his guidance to ask for miracles and healing, provision and wholeness, used to keep me up at night.   

What do I do when I call out to God and it gets worse instead of better?
How do I know if I’m praying his will or my own?
Did he really mean, “Ask for anything in my name and I’ll give it to you”?
Why does God rush in like a knight on a white stallion in some cases while in others he seems to remain silent and distant?
Why can’t he just make it clear and tell me how to pray?
My trial and error, hit or miss praying doesn’t feel like it’s “powerful and effective.”
Am I doing it wrong?

“I will still sleep peacefully with answers out of reach for me.”
~ Nicole Nordeman, Someday

What I Really Want

The truth lies somewhere between these extremes where the God Most High stoops down to listen to me—not because I have enough faith to manipulate his will, but just because he loves me.

[tweetthis]The God Most High stoops down to listen to me just because he loves me.[/tweetthis]

As I spend more time with him, I realize the growth of our relationship through prayer is more important than the prayer itself or the end result.  I discover that what I really crave is not answered prayers, but God himself.  He is the One I long for.  What I thought were the desires of my heart turn out to be merely the prompts that drive me to the One my heart desires above all else.

[tweetthis]What I really crave is not answered prayers, but God himself. [/tweetthis]

I am learning to rest in the mystery of God and his unsearchable ways. I don’t know why he chooses to answer some prayers miraculously and not others.

Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out!
Romans 11:33

Although his ways are unsearchable, his heart is knowable. I need look no further than the cross to see the magnitude of his love revealed by the depth of his suffering.

When I can’t trace his hand, I trust his heart.

There’s a lot I don’t know.  But there are a few things I do.

I know his sovereignty is supreme and that he holds all things in his hand.  And in his sovereignty, he told me to pray.  He told me my prayers matter.  That they make a difference. I know he wants us to be close and that our relationship blossoms when I make the effort to express my heart to him. 

So I will keep praying,
and trusting,
and receiving whatever he gives whenever he chooses to give it,
knowing with certainty that every “yes” and every “no” is spoken over me gently in perfect love and flawless wisdom.

Keep praying, and trusting, and receiving.

Blessings, Elizabeth

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  • I’ve wrestled with these same issues in prayer, Elizabeth. I like the way you describe the two camps and the challenge of finding a happy medium! This encouraged me: “As I spend more time with him, I realize the growth of our relationship through prayer is more important than the prayer itself or the end result. I discover that what I really crave is not answered prayers, but God himself.” Also, when I can’t trace His hand, I trust His heart.

  • Jarm Del Boccio

    I think relationship is the key. If we have an intimate relationship with the God of the Universe, why wouldn’t we trust Him? I know I’m not fully there yet. But, inching closer!

    • We’ll never be fully there until we see Him face to face. Which direction we’re facing is the key. Are we walking toward Him or away from Him? I’m inching with you, my Friend!

  • This is such a thoughtful post, Elizabeth. I’ve wondered about some of these verses too. I’ve been praying for something for several months now and have not seen the results I had in mind although God has also sent answers different than what I expected. I’m coming to a new place of trust. If God doesn’t answer my prayer as I expect, what’s the worse thing that could happen? God will still care for me.

    • It’s so hard to be in that place where you are crying out to God and you see no sign that he’s listening. He is though! And he’s working out something more wonderful than you can even imagine. He will let you know what it is when the time is right.

  • “When I can’t trace his hand, I trust his heart.”

    I love that sentence. I’ve heard it said that prayer changes the individual, even when it doesn’t change the circumstances. I believe that. As I continue to follow Jesus, I am realizing that relationship is at the heart of prayer

    • Wrestling through life issues in the context of a relationship with our all-loving God changes the way we view those very issues we are asking him to move in. That’s often where the real miracle takes place. I appreciate you sharing your perspective.

  • Yes! Trust, trust, trust and pray without ceasing. So easy to say but such a long journey from my head to my heart! I have been strengthened by Christ’s prayer in the Garden of Gethsemane, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will but yours be done.” (Luke 22:42) To pray fervently yet ultimately to lay it at the feet of the Almighty.

  • I love this line, “When I can’t trace His hand, I trust His heart.” God can be nothing but faithful and He is always good. When I remember this, I can trust even though I may not understand. Loved the post today, Elizabeth.

  • I appreciate your reflections here. I have wrestled with this a lot too, especially over praying for a friend who was struggling with mental illness. It challenged my faith a lot but I think I’ve come out stronger in the end and realised that our trust has to be in God and in his goodness and love rather than in a particular outcome. He wants us to bring our concerns to him but ultimately we have to trust him for the results even when we don’t understand.

  • “What I really crave is not answered prayers, but God himself.” –> A.B.S.O.L.U.T.E.L.Y LOVE this! Right on, my friend. I’m running right alongside you with this. Visiting via #testimonyTuesday. Glad to have found you.

    • It’s taken me a long time and a lot of heartache to figure that out, but when I really grasp the concept it brings such peace. So glad you stopped by!

  • Right on, ElizabehtC. I, too, have “camped in both extremes” and came up wanting. I agree that wanting God more than anything else, any answer to prayer, brings about His Kingdom. And that is what we are all about, that His Kingdom may come and His will may be done. No longer do I want it my way, but His way alone! Hugs!

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